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Can Any Girls Out There Provide An Opinion For An Arguing Couple.?

Can Any Girls Out There Provide An Opinion For An Arguing Couple.?

Postby Elvy » Mon Oct 16, 2017 6:25 am

I am a man. I am 23 years old and I have been seeing my girlfriend for 4 weeks now. We had our 1st argument recently, and bizarrely it was about my weight. I am 6 ft 3 and weigh 11 and a half stone (74kg or 163lbs) and she worries i dont eat properly when i'm alone (we dont live together at the moment)

What do the women out there think about this. Is she being unfair or am I a bit too skinny for my own good? I don't want us to argue anymore so honest opinions from others may help. Thank you.
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Can Any Girls Out There Provide An Opinion For An Arguing Couple.?

Postby Nynnyaw » Mon Oct 16, 2017 6:30 am

Based on your height and weight measurements, your body mass index in nicely in the healthy weight range. That said, physical appearances can be deceiving and you may look thinner than you weigh.

There are a few things I guess you could take from this argument

1) She genuinely cares for you and maybe really is worried about your weight, particularly if you do look thinner than your weight/BMI might suggest? - if it really is as simple as this then maybe just tell her your BMI is ok.

2) She genuinely cares for you but maybe isn't able to broach her feelings about this just yet (you have only been together for 4 weeks so maybe this is a convoluted way of getting across that she likes you a lot?)

3) She is being completely unfair to you, perhaps she has issues with her own body image?

4) She is being completely unfair and looking for an excuse to pick an argument?

Just some random thoughts there from a late 20s female and I could be completely wrong about all of them so feel free to ignore them!!

Either way, from the figures you've posted your weight is perfectly fine!

Good luck with sorting things out
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Postby Kieran » Mon Oct 16, 2017 6:36 am

Im thinking that four weeks in you shouldnt be arguing at all never mind about something so trivial as weight! It doesnt matter whether she thinks you are too skinny or not, how do you feel? if you eat a healthy balanced diet then your body will find its natural weight and if she doesnt like that tough.

why does she think you dont eat properly? is this something that you have mentioned or is it just because you are slim?

either way after only 4wks arguments about anything doesnt look too good for a rosy future together

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Postby Gisilbert » Mon Oct 16, 2017 6:54 am

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